I think because of the crowds we will be staying close to home like we usually do. The grounds were beautiful and Dylan was so excited to pick out his pumpkin and we cannot wait to carve it and get ready for Halloween!
Pickin Pumpkins
10/20/15 •
Well...we finally made it out of the house to do our annual pumpkin picking with the kids. This year was a little extra exciting with Haylee and this being her first Halloween and a visit to the pumpkin patch. We went with some very dear friends and their two little girls. We decided this year that we would go to "Tanaka Farms" which is about 20 minutes from our home so we could see what all the talk was about. Let's just say that it literally was like going to Disneyland, but without the rides. I have never seen so many people in my entire life!
I think because of the crowds we will be staying close to home like we usually do. The grounds were beautiful and Dylan was so excited to pick out his pumpkin and we cannot wait to carve it and get ready for Halloween!
I think because of the crowds we will be staying close to home like we usually do. The grounds were beautiful and Dylan was so excited to pick out his pumpkin and we cannot wait to carve it and get ready for Halloween!
Because letting go feels so good...
Today was one of those days, or should I say it's been one of those weeks! ️Haylee has two molars coming in and Dylan has had a cold all week and super cranky. Neither of them took no more then an hour nap and I was not about to sit in my house with almost 3 hours to spare before Dylan's therapy. So we headed down to the beach for a run and some play time on the swings. My husband and I are not much beach people and don't really take the kids. If you know me, I am a crazy clean,neat/freak, so to think of all the sand makes me cringe..even though I grew up at the beach and once surfed when I was in high school. I do love to run on the beach and living by the beach is a dream. Today after playing on the swings I decided to bring Dylan down to the water, and (yes this was the first time his toes have ever been in the ocean,) and I cried like a baby. I felt like a horrible mom and asked myself "why did I not do this earlier"? His face was so overwhelmed with joy And he loved it so much he even found a family to play with and build sand castles with. This family was so sweet and was here visiting from Utah. They fell in love with Dylan at first sight. (How could you not) I talked with the mom about hard days, good days and raising a child with Down syndrome. She was literally one of the sweetest ladies I have ever met. This day for me was truly a special one.
This week has truly been one of the hardest weeks for me as a stay at home mom. I have realized it is down right the hardest job I have ever had. But when I lay my head down at night I thank the lord everyday that I get to be home with them, raise them and cherish every moment I can. Today I learned to let go of trying to control everything and enjoying the small things in life, and creating special moments for my kids. Is raising a child with Down syndrome hard?? Heck yes it is, but there are more rewarding days then hard days. My life is fuller, happier and full of love because of my son. Today he taught me about love, happiness, and this one life we have been given-to make every moment count!
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This week has truly been one of the hardest weeks for me as a stay at home mom. I have realized it is down right the hardest job I have ever had. But when I lay my head down at night I thank the lord everyday that I get to be home with them, raise them and cherish every moment I can. Today I learned to let go of trying to control everything and enjoying the small things in life, and creating special moments for my kids. Is raising a child with Down syndrome hard?? Heck yes it is, but there are more rewarding days then hard days. My life is fuller, happier and full of love because of my son. Today he taught me about love, happiness, and this one life we have been given-to make every moment count!
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10/7/15 •
Since having Haylee and her being our second child I often get the question is it harder raising a child with down syndrome then a typical child?
When Dylan was born everything was pretty intense. 3 major surgeries including open heart surgery in his first year of life. Four therapists visited our house on a weekly basis. I kept a chart of all the exercises they suggested, and I wrestled with constant guilt when I didn’t cycle through the whole list as the week went on. And weekly doctor visits just to ensure his health was on track.
Now that I have Haylee as a point of comparison, I can also say that certain aspects of Dylan's early years were easier. He rarely cried. He slept 10 hours at night starting at 7 weeks old. Even his physical limitations sometimes came in handy. I never had to worry about him climbing onto a bookshelf and pulling it down on top of him. He was more cautious than Haylee, so it was Haylee who ended up with more bumps and bruises then Dylan did. And parents of adult children with Down syndrome often comment upon the fact that their son or daughter with Downs is the "easiest" of the bunch. Although the individual stories will vary, the overall portrait of family life with a person with Downs in the mix is a positive one. Harder in some ways, yes! It’s hard to specify the joys that come from a child with Down syndrome. Perhaps I experience even greater pride in his accomplishments because they once seemed impossible. But my joy as a mother comes, like it does for any parent, from the small moments of wonder and beauty and human connection.
As Dylan grows up, he's going to face the real challenges. According to much of the literature about Down syndrome, maybe he can’t live independently. It is at best uncertain whether he will go to college or get married, and very unlikely that he could have children of his own. He may not be able to fully support himself financially. But with the amazing resources our children have today, he could do all the above...
Dylan is limited. He is needy. That’s true of all babies, and to some degree all toddlers, and yet it is also true of many adults with disabilities. Having Dylan in my life has made me wonder, though, how true those words — vulnerable, limited, needy — also are of me.
Through Dylan, I have come to realize that interdependence is constitutive of my humanity. That it is a gift to me when I need other people, when I form relationships of mutual giving and receiving. Similarly, it is a gift when I am able to offer myself in service to others based on my particular abilities. Having Dylan, and interacting with other children and adults with disabilities, has changed the way I see the world. Instead of categorizing into able and disabled, I see us all as interconnected. And I believe that every person has something to teach me, just as I have something to offer in return.
Is having a child with Down syndrome harder? I suppose the answer is yes. And yet the largest source of stress associated with having Dylan in my life has nothing to do with his particular needs. Rather, it comes from knowing that our son is entering a world in which people assume they know his abilities (or lack thereof) simply by looking at his face, with its flat features and extra fold of skin around his eyes. The hardest thing about having a child with Down syndrome is knowing that there are people who would compare him to a not so smart person, and people who assume he takes more from us than he will ever be able to give.
I have the privilege of being the mother of a child with Down syndrome and, through him, being introduced to a world of people who have taught me more about what it means to be human than my education and productive life skills ever could. Harder times may come, but I cannot imagine a day without him or the presence in my life or in our community. The fact that these two will forever love each other for who they are is more then I could ever ask for as a mom. The love they have and bond will forever be a gift!
When Dylan was born everything was pretty intense. 3 major surgeries including open heart surgery in his first year of life. Four therapists visited our house on a weekly basis. I kept a chart of all the exercises they suggested, and I wrestled with constant guilt when I didn’t cycle through the whole list as the week went on. And weekly doctor visits just to ensure his health was on track.
Now that I have Haylee as a point of comparison, I can also say that certain aspects of Dylan's early years were easier. He rarely cried. He slept 10 hours at night starting at 7 weeks old. Even his physical limitations sometimes came in handy. I never had to worry about him climbing onto a bookshelf and pulling it down on top of him. He was more cautious than Haylee, so it was Haylee who ended up with more bumps and bruises then Dylan did. And parents of adult children with Down syndrome often comment upon the fact that their son or daughter with Downs is the "easiest" of the bunch. Although the individual stories will vary, the overall portrait of family life with a person with Downs in the mix is a positive one. Harder in some ways, yes! It’s hard to specify the joys that come from a child with Down syndrome. Perhaps I experience even greater pride in his accomplishments because they once seemed impossible. But my joy as a mother comes, like it does for any parent, from the small moments of wonder and beauty and human connection.
As Dylan grows up, he's going to face the real challenges. According to much of the literature about Down syndrome, maybe he can’t live independently. It is at best uncertain whether he will go to college or get married, and very unlikely that he could have children of his own. He may not be able to fully support himself financially. But with the amazing resources our children have today, he could do all the above...
Dylan is limited. He is needy. That’s true of all babies, and to some degree all toddlers, and yet it is also true of many adults with disabilities. Having Dylan in my life has made me wonder, though, how true those words — vulnerable, limited, needy — also are of me.
Through Dylan, I have come to realize that interdependence is constitutive of my humanity. That it is a gift to me when I need other people, when I form relationships of mutual giving and receiving. Similarly, it is a gift when I am able to offer myself in service to others based on my particular abilities. Having Dylan, and interacting with other children and adults with disabilities, has changed the way I see the world. Instead of categorizing into able and disabled, I see us all as interconnected. And I believe that every person has something to teach me, just as I have something to offer in return.
Is having a child with Down syndrome harder? I suppose the answer is yes. And yet the largest source of stress associated with having Dylan in my life has nothing to do with his particular needs. Rather, it comes from knowing that our son is entering a world in which people assume they know his abilities (or lack thereof) simply by looking at his face, with its flat features and extra fold of skin around his eyes. The hardest thing about having a child with Down syndrome is knowing that there are people who would compare him to a not so smart person, and people who assume he takes more from us than he will ever be able to give.
I have the privilege of being the mother of a child with Down syndrome and, through him, being introduced to a world of people who have taught me more about what it means to be human than my education and productive life skills ever could. Harder times may come, but I cannot imagine a day without him or the presence in my life or in our community. The fact that these two will forever love each other for who they are is more then I could ever ask for as a mom. The love they have and bond will forever be a gift!
10/5/15 •
11 Months ago we brought this beautiful baby girl into this world, and I am not sure and why time has flown by so fast! It is officially count down till Haylee will be one years old. She has blossomed into such a beautiful little girl, and has officially made her place in our home. She has already told us pretty much that every thing revolves around her, but little does she know she has another thing coming for her...HA!
Haylee is about 22 pounds now and growing at a very rapid pace. At this speed she will be towering over her brother in no time at all. She loves sweet potatoes, bananas, smoothies, broccoli, apple sauce, watermelon, crackers, cheese, turkey meat and of course her "ba-ba" I think her bottle will be a hard one to break and I am not looking forward to that. I am ready to stop buying the formula as it has broken our bank this past year. Haylee loves books, music and running around and chasing her brother-she even loves to steal his iPad and his Sippy cup. She sleeps about 11-12 hours a night unless she is sheeting (which we are currently) She almost has 8 teeth and I love to watch her smile. She is a daddy's girl and pretty much wants him from the time he walks in the door from work. She says: mama, dada, bubba, ball, dog-dog and some other ones, but not quite sure of what they are. She has a very sassy personality and makes known that every one around her knows that! Are sweet Haylee we love you so much, and are the light of our world. Your brother is your admire and he will always look after you....Happy 11 Months sweet "pumpkin"
Haylee is about 22 pounds now and growing at a very rapid pace. At this speed she will be towering over her brother in no time at all. She loves sweet potatoes, bananas, smoothies, broccoli, apple sauce, watermelon, crackers, cheese, turkey meat and of course her "ba-ba" I think her bottle will be a hard one to break and I am not looking forward to that. I am ready to stop buying the formula as it has broken our bank this past year. Haylee loves books, music and running around and chasing her brother-she even loves to steal his iPad and his Sippy cup. She sleeps about 11-12 hours a night unless she is sheeting (which we are currently) She almost has 8 teeth and I love to watch her smile. She is a daddy's girl and pretty much wants him from the time he walks in the door from work. She says: mama, dada, bubba, ball, dog-dog and some other ones, but not quite sure of what they are. She has a very sassy personality and makes known that every one around her knows that! Are sweet Haylee we love you so much, and are the light of our world. Your brother is your admire and he will always look after you....Happy 11 Months sweet "pumpkin"
Love is in the air
“You know you're in love when you can't fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.”
A few weekends ago we headed up to Santa Barbara for our dear friend's Kevin and Sam's wedding. Greg was in the wedding so our weekend was going to be jam packed. We decided to bring my mom along to help with the kids. We stayed in a cute little Inn right by the beach and of course it was big enough to accommodate all 5 of us. Grandma was an awesome help! I had a hard time leaving the kids, so my mom offered to come along (she is the best)....
Friday night we had rehearsal and a beautiful dinner after for the family of the bride and groom and the wedding party. After dinner everyone decided to go to a club/bar for some drinks. It was pretty funny to see as I don't remember the last time I stayed out till 1:30 in the morning. We were in a college town where most people don't even start there night till 10:00pm. At home I am well asleep by that time. How times have changed since having kids, It's nice to do that once in awhile, but I sure as heck cannot keep up like I used to.
Saturday we went over to my cousins house to visit. I have not been to see there house since they moved 3 years ago. There house is just beautiful! They took us to a great Mexican restaurant for lunch. I really do love Santa Barbara. I love the quite-small town feeling and of course we always love the beach. After lunch we went back to the hotel so Greg could head over to get ready for the wedding and pictures with the wedding party. I stayed to get ready and help my mom with the kids before I left. Oh...how I love "Uber" these days. We used it the whole weekend so we did not have to drive anywhere. The wedding was at the beautiful El Encancto. It's simply amazing and at the top of Santa Barbara with views that are simply breath taking. The ceremony was stunning, and in the most perfect spot. It was in a small courtyard over a little pond. They exchanged vows that were just beautiful and Kevin's vows were over the top and made me cry like a baby. They are truly meant for each other and more in love then ever! The night went on with a beautiful reception and lots and lots of dancing. I think I sweat my booze off..ha!
It was a weekend to remember and we are so happy for Kevin and Sam. We love them so much! Thank you mom for taking care of our babies and being the best grandma ever!
